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Saturday, May 5, 2018

New Baby Has Arrived!

A little late on this update, but understandably I've been busy!

On April 25th (just a week and a half ago!) at 6:15 pm Jessica and I welcomed our baby girl to the family naming her Isabelle Claire. Weight at birth was just under 6 lbs, but don't let her small size fool you. She passed her tests with flying colors and so far, at home, has made an attempt to try learning how to crawl, so she just may yet be an overachiever like her dad!

All the excitement at everything she does comes at the very small price of being just a little fatigued. But that is okay! What is interesting is that I was advised by some parents during Jessica's pregnancy "Oh, that first week is so hard. Watch out!" The first week with Isabelle home was probably anything but as hard, or terrible as some say. That is not to say that my experience with fatherhood is the exception--or even the rule--but rather I count myself fortunate and blessed that my wife and I have somehow narrowly escaped the drastic changes Isabelle has no doubt brought to our family life.

Jessica and I thank everyone for the continued support and prayers on our behalf as we get settled in what is now our new reality. And you know something? It just isn't that bad.

Wednesday, April 11, 2018

Altering My Use of Social Media - Part 2

So, a couple months ago I decided to take the Facebook app off my phone. (You can read about my reasons here.) After a couple of months of not using Facebook on my phone I've discovered more than just some space and battery being saved.

From time to time I just get into a mood. A real mood. A mood to write, blog, tinker with a website, or practice my coding (C++). I have to be honest those notifications were getting in the way of things I wanted to do, and much more than I thought.

After seeing the results of two months without Facebook on my phone, I've decided to keep it off my phone. I'm still going to use Facebook, but I've discovered that I only use it to keep in touch with friends and share... well... pointless stuff. A lot of what I share on Facebook is a lot of inside jokes that only friends and family members understand, so that's also why I don't accept friend requests from anyone unless I've actually met them (you know, in like real life).

As much as I still use social networking I've found that my main outlet is Twitter or Google+. It's not that Facebook doesn't cut it for me, or that I don't find it entertaining. It's mostly the fact that the amount of time I spend on Twitter and Google is considerably less than what I spend on Facebook.

That being said, I've been able to find more time for blogging - which presently is my best medium for writing and getting my thoughts out. So, until next time...

Saturday, April 7, 2018

Baby Countdown

In case any of you have been completely out of the loop in the last several months: Jessica and I will are expecting the birth of our first child by approximately the end of the month or the first part of May. It's an exciting time filled with getting the crib ready, making sure we have enough diapers (at this point we have the equivalent of a Wal-Mart distribution center!), and packing the hospital bag that we'll be taking with us.

I think that, as much as we can be, we are ready. Now we wait!

Wednesday, February 28, 2018

The Scandal of Fr. Martin, SJ

Once again Fr. James Martin is taking to Twitter. This time in praise of another Priest who recently was arrested for protesting immigration reform. This other Priest did state publicly that his intent was to be arrested. And today Fr. Martin tweets: "Fr ThomasReeseSJ arrested in US Senate during protest on behalf of Dreamers. On the Mount of Beatitudes today in the Holy Land we read out Jesus's words: 'Blessed are those who are persecuted for the sale of righteousness, for theirs is the kingdom of heaven.' So blessed is he!"

To clarify - before we continue - and may it be clear that the Church does not endorse illegal activity, and most certainly discourages against purposely breaking the law!

On the outside, this looks like a harmless tweet in support of a brother Priest defending the downtrodden. There is no need to bring up politics, so none will be discussed. However, underlying this tweet, with the accompanied verse from St. Matthews Gospel, is a Pandora's box of, as is the norm with Fr. Martin, pushing a political agenda. What's more is that this sort of grandstanding was done on social media to make a political, not catechetical point.

This grandstanding was actually what Christ warns us against shortly later in Matthew 6:1-5 wherein Jesus says, "Take heed that you do not your justice before men, to be seen by them: otherwise you shall not have a reward of your Father who is in heaven. Therefore when thou dost an almsdeed, sound not a trumpet before thee, as the hypocrites do in the synagogues and in the streets, that they may be honoured by men. Amen I say to you, they have received their reward. But when thou dost alms, let not thy left hand know what thy right hand doth. That thy alms may be in secret, and thy Father who seeth in secret will repay thee. And when ye pray, you shall not be as the hypocrites, that love to stand and pray in the synagogues and corners of the streets, that they may be seen by men: Amen I say to you, they have received their reward."

So what is the crux of the matter here?

What makes Fr. Martin's tweet problematic is that it is a tweet that reads much more like look at how great I am. Look at how great this Priest is. In no way is any credit given to our blessed Lord! Moreover, the use of scripture to back up a publicly premeditated intent to break the law essentially flies in the face of reason, and further abuses the words of Christ to exhalt, when on the contrary one should always be humble when doing God's service (even if somehow the law of the land enters the scene).

Just as with all of Fr. Martin's social network activity, it is beyond a reasonable doubt that, even with the best possible of intents, his activity is scandalous. In the Summa Theologica, St. Thomas Aquinas states, "Scandal is, therefore, fittingly defined as something less rightly done or said, that occasions another's spiritual downfall." (ST II-II Q.43 A.1) With such a definition it is hard to believe how the tweets associated with Fr. Martin can not be an occasion of scandal for souls. Repeatedly denouncing the faith of those who do not share his opinion, by the use of name calling and other such word play reserved for children who do not know better, has a great risk scandalizing souls by way of sowing confusion and mistrust of his fellow Priests and religious - who rightly should be trusted by the lay faithful.

The grandstanding, name calling, and scandalous activity evident on his Twitter feed is not becoming of one who claims to be an alter Christus, that is, another Christ, but becoming of one who enables a victim mentality among followers, some who, in a seeming chorus, repeat his slurs and perjuries against those who have honest questions, or who disagree. This bullying by his followers is scandalous too, because they claim to want an end to the apparent "bully pulpit" as also Fr. Martin claims. So why the appearance of hypocrisy? Possibly because once you establish your role as a victim, it is not difficult to find all sorts of justification - even scriptural - for all sorts of bad, reckless behavior. Such a mindset is harmful as it is often difficult to see how one could be harming others despite one's desire for help.

Some are not scandalized, which is very good. In this sense Fr. Martin may only be scandalous to those who are not fortified well in their understanding or practice of faith. It may be possible too, since once cannot truly know Fr. Martin's intents or motives, that it may be a case of what St. Thomas Aquinas calls passive scandal. St. Thomas Aquinas tells us that "One man's word or deed is the accidental cause of another's sin, when he neither intends to lead him into sin, and yet this other one, though being ill-disposed, is led into sin, for instance, into envy of another's good, and then he who does this righteous act, does not, so far as he is concerned, afford an occasion of the other's downfall... Wherefore this is passive scandal, since he that acts rightly does not for his own part, afford the occasion of another's downfall." (ST II-II Q.43 A.1)

It is perfectly understandable at times that it is difficult not to perceive that despite all else that what appears to be is as St. Thomas Aquinas defines as active scandal. Active scandal of course is much more severe and is a great stumbling block to these little ones. As is universal, cases of scandal must be avoided to preserve all from sin and spiritual misfortune.

Wednesday, February 7, 2018

Get Excited: Han Solo Movie

This will either do tremendous justice to Han Solo or it will be an overdone action movie that flops. Either way, I will definitely see it.

Altering My Use Of Social Media

In this age of the world it is very common to be helplessly connected to social media. One might even say that it has become necessary, if not unavoidable. Heck, anyone with a Gmail has access to Google+ -- Google's social network. So of course, like me, you probably use social media and most likely have an app on your phone or tablet.

As it is, I enjoy the convenience of social media apps. It makes keeping up with friends and family a breeze. It also means that I must be prepared to charge my phone by keeping an adapter at the ready. The notifications popping up really demand a lot of attention if you don't like things waiting in queue. Have I mentioned the battery usage?

The problem that come with social media mean carelessly, if not intentionally, poking a nose into every sort of textual wrestling match and backbiting that rears its ugly head at every turn. Like many who intend well I'll gladly assert a theological point, a personal opinion, or even some critique of reason when the situation calls. But at what point is all this just a mindless distraction?

So I decision to delete Facebook off of my phone and tablet.

"Oh my gosh, finally!"
"Oh geez, look who's on his soap box!"
"So what, you were usually too busy to care anyway."
"Good riddance!"

Wait, wait, I still use Facebook, but from a computer. Remember all the endless bickering on social media? Well, I do enjoy a good and well reasoned discussion. On the contrary, my life isn't what it once was. I'm married and have a family. My responsibilities have changed.

While I briefly studied for the Priesthood I didn't have time for social media. So I wasn't on, but periodically. While I studied for Meteorology for a time I didn't have a lot of time for social media, except maybe in the spare moments between classes and when I was killing time. So I wasn't always on. Now as a family man I'm on whenever I get the chance - which is sometimes.

"So you're turning into one of those people who calls cell phones 'idiot boxes' and hates social media?"

Nope. I love technology! Actually, I very much promote its integration in society as many online tools and apps have tremendous potential when it comes to productivity. I highly recommend Google Suite products for instance. Also, not every social media app is going off. Just Facebook. Google+ and Twitter will still reside on my devices, because they take up less space. Quite frankly, the only thing that would keep the Facebook app on my phone or tablet would be if the app itself didn't obliterate my battery. In comparison, Google and Twitter take up much less battery.

So that's the latest from yours truly.

Monday, July 24, 2017

I've Left The Nest!

Ten days ago was arguably the best day of my life.  I married my best friend.  My lovely wife, whom I proposed to last August was escorted down the aisle and the Rite of Marriage began.  I'm unable to recall the last time I was more absorbed by the moment.  At the moment my wife Jessica and I spoke our vows to each other we became married.

From the Catholic perspective, the Rite of Marriage is performed by the couple being married.  The Priest acts as the legal witness in the name of the Church and our Maid of Honor and Best Man act as the legal witness to the state.  Both certify in no uncertain terms that, yes, these two are married and have chosen to do so freely and with full knowledge of the responsibility they are undertaking.

A couple moments that will always remain in my memory are the moment during which I made my vows to my wife.  The second moment which will always be cherished will be my first dance as a husband.  Such moments you can't just put into words.

A big thank you to the Priest who gave us Marriage Instruction, our wedding planner who helped us navigate and plan the big day, and our parents for supporting us.  A big thank you as well to our wedding party as you all have been with us through everything and live up to what it means to be true friends.

Of course, I'd like to thank also our guests.  Those friends and family who've known us through the years at various stages of our lives who eagerly came together on our wedding day to show us love and support.

To everyone, a huge thank you!


Wednesday, February 1, 2017

New Hobbies & New Happenings In Life

Okay, so yes, it's been a while.  Sometimes the distractions of life come and go and I forget to blog.  But what're you going to do right?  This would be a case where perhaps the hashtag "lifeproblems" would probably fit, but alas I haven't sunk that low yet.  I'm still maintaining my stance on keeping hashtags where they belong: on Twitter.  But I digress.

The last year of my life has been a busy one.  I moved to central Illinois to get a fresh start on life.  Leaving the northern Illinois area - which had been my home for some time - was bittersweet, because of the many fond memories I have both on and off campus and the many good friends I had the privilege of meeting, and still keep in contact with.  However, the move to central Illinois proved an important role in shaping my near future.  I quickly became in a position to grow a wonderful friendship with a woman who I will be marrying this summer, and have had a lot of time to think critically on what I need to do to take some steps in my life toward being the man I want to be.

Along the way my regular reading of the Art of Manliness and listening to their podcasts have filled me with inspiration to begin taking inventory of my hobbies and interests, something I recommend everyone to do periodically.  I highly recommend both the AoM website and the podcasts (they also have an app!).  Keeping up with the Art of Manliness has brought attention to the fact that I'd like to look at and possibly pursue a hobby - thanks to their article The Ultimate List of Hobbies for Men: 75+ Ideas For Your Free Time.  Very good stuff in the article!

So that was long-winded, many apologies!  But really, I very highly recommend checking out the Art of Manliness.

I've decided that in the near future - after I've taken care of a few things in the coming months - to take up computer programming as a hobby.  Ever since my first programming course in C++ I've acquired a taste for programming, or rather a reawakening.  My first brush with programming came in seventh or eighth grade teaching myself HTML, and since then programming has always sort of been a side thing I turn to once in a while.

Another hobby I've recently been more involved in is being a Google Local Guide.

As I've progressed through the levels of the Local Guide, I've found a taste for rating and reviewing places I've been.  And there are rewards along the way.

Ultimately my contributions give me an outlet for helping people know where to go for things like that perfect sandwich or cup of coffee, or even reviewing places like book stores and other businesses.

Well, that's sort of a digest of things and latest happenings.  I'm looking forward to what the rest of 2017 has in store, and hope that so far everyone is enjoying the start of the year.  As always feel free to follow me on Twitter @noherp2012.

Friday, November 18, 2016

I Am Sorry For My Absence

Dear readers and followers,

I am very sorry for my absence over the course of the last 3 years.  Aside from a couple postings, I regret to say that I became distracted and preoccupied with a few personal matters requiring my complete attention.

This is not to say that I could not have written anything.

For those who have supported me, and stayed by my side, in the last three years I thank you.  It has been quite the journey and I am thankful that having recovered I am stronger and more resilient than ever.

On that note, I am hoping to write a lot more and make some changes to the website as a whole.

Sincerely,
Kevin

Thursday, February 5, 2015

Time to Get Organized

Hmm, well... so I have not blogged on here in almost a couple of years.  So, what has been going on?  Too much and not a lot.

So the other day while hanging out on Youtube I found a most exquisite, inspiring video.  It is from the Art of Manliness, an online website - and Youtube channel - aimed at helping men be better at being, well... men.  I will not spoil the fun of this video but it is definitely something worth considering if you want to be better organized.  If you have time, feel free to browse around their website and Youtube.

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